Enjablog

First, I need to admit to watching a chick flick before I can complain about it. Last weekend, I watched The Notebook. I had heard from a couple girls that it was a really good/sweet movie. Ok, I feel like watching a chick flick. I understand that these movies are intended to be extra sappy and give people an excuse to be emotional. Let’s watch!

The characters in the movie (A little bit of a spoiler, if anyone cares):
- Girl’s rich father - extremely nice and doting on his daughter, but has no spine and no opinions on anything. He was essentially just filling a space on screen. His character added/subtracted nothing to/from the movie.
- Girl’s mother - surprise! made the same mistakes she sees her daughter making and *gasp* fails at sheltering her daughter by forbidding her to make her own decisions.
- Girl - pre-teen to teenage mindset the entire movie. Why do all these boys like me? Who should I choose? Won’t someone choose for me? I don’t like who you chose! I just want to live my own life! Let me make my own decisions! Oh, what will I do??
- Boy - Shes rich, he’s poor; it’ll never work. I’ll dump her before she can reject me. Wait, no! I want her back. If I do x, y, and z, I’ll win her heart and she will be with me forever! We’ll be so happy! *sigh* Why doesn’t she come back to me?
- Extraneous characters - Killed off for dramatic effect. Seriously. Like a supporting character? Oh, well then it will make you sad to see them die. Emote.

The only mature character in the movie was the fiance, who basically says, “I don’t want to have to convince my fiancee to marry me.” I think he ended up in the wrong movie.

What is with people (women?) these days? Teenage years are emotional and people can’t wait to get out of high school and grow out of that hormone-filled haze. Yet, when they have their little fantasies about how they want relationships or the world to work, they long for these angst-filled dramas where the immature teenage characters end up together and in love forever after. Not just loving of their chosen other, but forever in love. You know, that new-relationship high — butterflies, sweat, heart-pounding. Bleh.

Maybe I shouldn’t have watched this movie. ;)

But speaking of chick flicks. I was flipping through the channels while I was working through my backlog of Sudokus and caught part of Pretty Woman on TNT this week. I haven’t watched this movie in ages. Probably not since it first came out on video a decade and a half ago. First, I totally did not get what was going on when I last watched this. (Side gossip — visited my parents last night. My dad “unintentionally” brought porn back from China. Haha. Not really, but kind of.) Second, it’s a pretty cheesy movie overall. But the end was really bad. (Not cheesy bad, but actually bad.) The dialogue: “She saves him right back.” Ugh. And the camera angle on the kiss was terribly unflattering.

The strangest part of watching this on tv, though, was that as they were rolling the credits at the end, they shrank that down to half-screen so they could have those running while they started the next scheduled program. The next program? Pretty Woman. Again.

I watched Numb3rs with Ian and he was rooting for the hottie math/physics chick to get jealous over the mathematician guy hanging out with his ex-gf neurologist. While I do entertain this storyline that the writers have going on in the background of the two math geeks getting together, I still find jealousy incredibly dumb and always hope that that isn’t the triggering factor in characters realizing they’re “meant” for each other.

Ian commented that that was the easiest way to get a girl to notice you. Just show up with another girl. Yeah, and that’s also the easiest way to get a guy to notice you too. Humans thrive on jealousy and I just don’t get it. I was told a few weeks ago that my relationship/women advice was invalid because I am unlike almost every other person in the world. Yeah, isn’t the rest of the world unique just like everyone else too? I took slight offense to it at the time, but I’m gradually realizing some of the truth to that.

I dated a guy in college who, when we had our relationship talk, expressed uncertainty about “us” and he wanted to see other people. Whatever. As long as there’s no lying, I don’t care. I.e. if you have a date with someone else. Don’t lie about it, just say you have plans already. But then he did lie and only told me where he had been after he had been caught (”I can’t see you tonight. I need to finish up some cleaning at home.” “Then why does my caller id say you’re calling me right now from a bar?”).

Then, he started telling me about all the women he could have and how girls were always coming on to him. And you’re telling me because…? So, I felt myself getting jealous and I really didn’t like it. If that’s really the case, go pick one your other girls; I was done. Then, I moved on and went on a date with someone else. And *gasp* he was right back at my doorstep. He could date other people while we were dating, but for me to go out with someone when we were broken up was not ok? Wtf? I don’t want that, nor do I need the stress. It makes no sense.

I never really understood jealousy before then, mostly becuase I had never really experienced it. But after that, I didn’t understand the common reaction to it: I’m jealous, now I want you more. This is probably [one of] the reason[s] why I will never go on a reality dating show.

Jealousy drives people to do stupid things. I don’t like how it makes me feel. I would assume other people don’t like it either. Why would you want to be with the person who makes you feel crappy like that? Especially if it’s intentional? Someone makes you feel bad -> get away from them. (Or, my advice to a friend long ago, “If a guy is mean to you, don’t have sex with him!”) Where is the flaw in this logic?

“Your flaw is logic.”