Enjablog

I read Hax Chat every week. I think it’s because I’m nosy, but for whatever reason, I love reading advice columns. An on-going theme in her chats and her weekly columns are bridezillas or their horrible friends. Women who demand a princess wedding or friends who assume they’re invited and make a scene when they’re not.

Every now and then, people write in saying they were invited to some shower or received a “Save the Date” card, but never got an invitation. Then there’s some huge rift in the friendship/family and people are never the same again. Or, a couple sends out invitations and never receive a response card back, their good friends don’t show up, and are forever angry with each other.

So, I know JL2 is getting married. I’ve talked to him a handful of times in the past year and see him about once or twice a year. I knew they set a date “in the fall” and were doing it out of town… So, when I didn’t receive an invitation, I figured it wasn’t happening yet or maybe they needed to pare down the guest list and I got cut. Disappointing, but understandable. I haven’t talked to him in a while… maybe I’m not an A-list friend anymore. I can handle that.

I received a phone call last night from JL2 saying they haven’t received a response card from me yet. But… but… I haven’t received an invitation yet! Did he send it to my parents’ house? I always forget to check my mail there. Or maybe Sonny’s house… Is anyone checking mail at that address now?

Turns out they forgot to put our apartment number on the invitation. I’m surprised it didn’t get returned to them, but maybe the postal service left it with the building and the building people didn’t finish the job. In any case, that all got straightened out. I received a pdf of the invitation in my email last night. Very classy.

Making reservations today. It’s kind of a good thing my sister’s going out of town because the wedding’s on her birthday (She’s turning *30*! Shh… don’t tell her I told.) and I’d feel bad about missing that. Not bad enough to miss a friend’s wedding, but still a consideration.

So, the lesson learned here is that I should be pushier when I know a friend is getting married and I don’t receive an invitation. ;) Ok, no. But JL2 did laugh at me when I suggested that I had gotten bumped from the list and didn’t want to be rude about it. Of course Ian and I were invited. How could I be so silly?